“Wrath ira), also known as “rage“, may be described as inordinate and uncontrolled feelings of hatred and anger. Wrath, in its purest form, presents with self-destructiveness, violence, and hate that may provoke feuds that can go on for centuries. Wrath may persist long after the person who did another a grievous wrong is dead. Feelings of anger can manifest in different ways, including impatience, revenge, and self-destructive behavior, such as drug abuse or suicide.”
I know a thing or two about “rage” that feels impossible to let go or move on from. I let it consume me in various ways for years. Communicating honestly and openly about my anger, frustration, hatred, and rage is one of the things that continues to keep me alive. Talking through it makes it less real, and gives the negative emotion less power.
Holding onto anger is like eating poison and hoping the thing you’re angry at suffers as a result. It’s irrational when viewed from the outside, but perfectly logical when you’re experiencing it. It’s a self-destructive urge born out of a survival mechanism that is just there to protect us.
When I realize that my anger is just a signal trying to give me some information, I can let it settle. Then once I am back at a neutral level I can actually examine why I got so angry, and figure out what my brain and body was trying to clue me in on. I used to think going through these types of exercises would somehow numb me or were a form of emotional manipulation. So, I swore against them.
I realize now that it was never about taking away my ability to have anger. That’s impossible. I’m a human with emotions, even if I don’t feel it immediately I will still possess anger in myself. No, neutral reflection on my emotional reactions actually gives me even more power. It allows me to use my emotions for the greatest good, and gives me far deeper insight to my own daily experiences.